I love Alyssa :heart: dearly, but even I was getting tired of seeing the same layout on K-M-K. Enough with the pink, gah! :crazy: Thank you for all the compliments though. :hug: Anyway, new skin! If you don’t see the funky purple/lavender girl layout, click here.
I feel like my nipples are going to fall off. They’re very, very tender. :ack: Since yesterday (1:30pm to be exact) I have been on a strict schedule of pumping each breast for ten-thirty minutes every two hours. I also nursed Alyssa as much as possible, and when I go over to my mom’s today (I need to take her more milk) I’ll nurse her again. I also want to go to GNC to pick up some fenugreek. However, I think I’ll have to wait until Monday, because I only have $3.50 in Paypal, and I’m not sure how much cash Daniel has on him. It’s infuriating to have over $60 worth of checks/money orders sitting on my kitchen table. Damn banks and their damn traditional hours! :frustrated:
Speaking of breastfeeding, I just have a little mini rant on the whole attachment parent concept. Now, I’m all for bonding with your baby, but that kind of dependence and closeness is just a little too much. I was browsing an LJ community yesterday and read about a woman who couldn’t even bear to leave her son alone for three-four hours while she went to a hair salon. She was going on and on about how she hadn’t been separated from her son for more than four hours since he was born (mind you, this baby is now eight months old). :eyeroll: Jesus fucking christ woman, get a grip! Personally, I think it’s unhealthy to create such close/clingy bonds like that with your child. Children need to have some independence.
And extended breastfeeding? All I have to say is this: there’s just something very weird about seeing a three year old attached to a woman’s breast. Furthermore, I think that it borders on child abuse (malnourishment, to be more specific) when these women refuse to give their toddlers anything but breastmilk, or if they fill them up so much on breastmilk that they don’t have the appetite to eat real foods. Hello ladies! Your children are no longer infants. They need something other than breastmilk in order to obtain the proper calories and nutrients to grow and be healthy.
Oh, and vaccinations: get over it and give the poor kid his shots. How would you feel if he got sick and was hospitalized over something as ridiculous as the common cold?!
I bet these types of people would love to crucify me. Alyssa is already in her bassinet in her bedroom (mainly because it’s quieter and she seems to sleep better; also Daniel doesn’t feel comfortable having her sleep between us (he’s afraid he’d roll on her), although I wouldn’t mind having her in bed with me at this young of an age), I have no qualms about leaving her with Daniel or my mother for a few hours (or, such as now, the entire weekend), I plan on weaning her off of breastmilk and onto regular fluids when she’s ready (probably somewhere around nine months-year), and I’ve already talked to her doctor about her vaccinations! Now… does all that mean I don’t love my child or don’t want the best for her? :dammit: Absolutely not. I just see a difference between healthy parenting and smothering/overdoing things.
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Yeah no shit…im to cool with seeing a three year old attached to someones breast. ever hear of COWS MILK. yeah thats what one year olds are suppose to drink. juice and the such can be givin at 4 months but only apple. i LIKE the fact that my kids dont wanna sleep with me. thank the lord lol! And i would give ANYTHING to get 4 hours a a salon by myself. jeez people.
not to cool i mean
Ooh, I love this new skin. Don’t get me wrong, I loved the Alyssa skin, but I was ready for a change.
In some cultures, breastfeeding goes on until around the time the child turns two, but I think its unusual in most for it to continue past that. It seems very weird for it to go on for three or more years. I don’t get women who do that or who don’t vaccinate their kids. It just seems weird.
I love my fenugreek! Since I still had a whole bottle left after K stopped bfing, I’ve found out how much it works wonders on cramps! I just pop 2 when I feel cramping coming on and they’re gone in an hour! :heart:
“I bet these types of people would love to crucify me. “
I’m one of “those types”.
Oh Jenn.
The vaccination thing got me to thinking about my little sisters. The oldest one went without her innoculations and is a very strong, healthy active 7-year-old today.
My youngest sister is 5-years-old right now and received all of her needles. Right after the 12 month mmr needle, she regressed majorly. She went from being a happy, boisterous little imp, with a vocabulary of over 20 words to nothing.
And 4 years later, we’re still trying to get her to remember 10 words, so I’m fully behind parents’ decision regarding whether or not to get the needles, hoping both extremes know the potential consequences.
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So, do you look down on me, and think I’m weird because I choose not to vax anymore? Hon, I think you need to read up vaxes & the links to autism & what’s actually in the vaxes, etc before you talk about it.
actually, ask you docter. the link between vax and autism is coincedence.around the time the vax that everyone thinks is “linked” is given is the same time signs of autism showup. so unless yyour kids has autism, not gettin your childs vax is iresponsible! i have 2 kids and both my kids are vaxed and i dont have problems. its very rare for any problems to occur with vax. get over it.
I love the new skin Jenn. Purple is one of my fav colors ;)
As for TOO dependent mothers, I think it’s ridiculous for a 3 year old to be ONLY breastfed. Toddlers need to have some independence, not clinging to their mothers all the time. How are these children going to act when they grow up? As for you Jenn, I think your a GREAT mother and doing just as you should be doing. :heart:
im sorry, id rather my child have speech delays then DIE from contracting a virus cuz some idiot parent decided not to vax her kid. no offense to people who dont, but thats crazy. jexx why dont we just allnot vax and bring back the black plaque!
here i go again, this topic pisses me off. there are reasons for vax and its to prevent disease that were killing children even as late as the 60′s and still are in some countries.
I am NOT an irresponsible parent for not vaxing my child, so FUCK OFF YOU DUMB TWAT!
I don’t care if people vax or not vax their own children – I just choose to not vax mine, but at least I don’t go around telling people that they are irresponsible for vaxing their children just because it’s differnet from what I do. Judge, jurry and excutioner, eh cortni? At least I CARE enough about my child to read up on what shit I’m injecting into her prescious little body. Go back to your hole and stay there.
oh my god.
live with a sister who at the beginning of her life had so much potential, so much to say and learn, and then lose it all and retreat into her own world, and THEN tell me what you’d rather. The Black Plague? Are you serious?
:haha: :laugh: :haha: :laugh: :haha: :laugh: You’re so pathetic it’s funny. Have you not seen the stats from the cdc on these diseases? Most of them are no longer around or 1 american out of the whole population has it per year. The black plague? LMAO!
hey it wont me my kid not getin into school, it will be yours. did you forget that? kids are aloud in school without vax. i know this cuz my kids were not vax until they started daycare cuz i was all paranoid about autism too. i didnt say YOU were irresponsible. im saying that children can get sick if they arent vax. now, 10 years even 40 years. those viruses can KILL a child. im not just saying this cuz im stupid or wanna fight. i just dont like the thought of my kids goin to the playground and contracting something from a unvax child. calm down damn.
chill out. i talked to my docter about all this awile back cuz i read the same shit on the cdc website. he said its very rare for a child to have any problems and he said basically the same thing i said. if we dont vax these viruses WILL come back eventually cuz there is no antibodies to fight them off. millions of people from other countries have these viruses and if were are not immune to them, when thoses people come to the usa for vacation or WHATEVER, are children can contract them.
We actually read an article in psych. about the differences in sleeping patterns. People from the US rarely sleep in the same bed as their infant, while in other countries it’s VERY common. A mother at my ice rink actually breast fed her baby until she was 2! That’s just ridiculous, so I totally understand where you are coming from.
Wow people, stop arguing! (im talking about the people who commented)
I totally agree with you jennifer
Yes, I’ve looked at every aspect and no school, by law, can dis-allow a child to go there because they aren’t vaxed. Sure, they can threaten not to allow them or to suspend/expell them but if they do that, that’s illegal. I’ve already talked to the health department and I’ve already got my forms for conscious expemtion. Vaxes aren’t mandatory because they aren’t even 100% sure they work or 100% sure that what’s in them won’t do long term harm. My daughter has her 2/4/6month vaxes.. I just don’t know about the mmr one.
I definitely agree with what you wrote. It’s strange to have a mother so clingy to her child. That’s obviously not good for the child because they will become dependent on the mother too, and it’s just a vicious cycle. The child won’t be able to learn independence, and that creates a big mess. Congrats Jen for your parenting skills!
oh i know about that one. thats not until there 4. im still checking that one out. i just know that my children were not aloud into daycare because they were not up to date. but do your think. im not patranizing you, i just dont think its fair to you baby if she gets sick from something bad cuz you were scared that she would get autism. its very rare and my docter and my pedi says that its not even from the vac its cuz children show signs around the same age they get the vac.
No, the mmr one is the 12 month one… which is next week for us, but I’m still iffy about it, and am going to delay it until she’s 18 months at least. I’m sorry if I was bitchy in my posts, but I do not like being called irresponsible (which is how i took what you said – I hear enough about it from my mother). This is a very touchy subject for me.
thats cool shannon. but hey i just went to the cdc. this is what i found about mmr. MMR vaccine and autism
Does the MMR vaccine cause autism? CDC believes that the current scientific evidence does not support the hypothesis that MMR, or any combination of vaccines, cause the development of autism, including regressive forms of autism.
maybe they did new studies
I agree with you. I saw something on a talkshow once. There was a lady that breastfed her kid until he was TWELVE!!! Some people are absolutely nuts.
I really like this new skin.
The purple and grey go together really nicely.
if you take the risk and not do and she get measels (sp?) which children still get, your gunna feel horrible. but if you take the risk and get it and she never gets any reaction, youll feel great knowing she wont get sick. now that i look at my childrens books, she got her mmr and she didnt even get a fever like they say.
Woah, 4 hours? My mom is like protective over me but not -that- protective. Amr and Alyssa look so cute together!
I’m really on the fence on the MMR. I’m scared it’ll give her autism or comprmise her immune system, but i also am scared incase she gets m/m/r. They used the words “believes”.. that’s just as valid as me saying I beilieve that it does cause it. They have no valid proof that i doesn’t – and no valid proof that it does. Which is why I’m on the fence on this. There were 44 cases of measles in 2002, 18 of rubella and 270 of mumps. Take that in account of how many people are really in the US, and that’s like .01% of the population or less. That’s like a scenario of a doctor saying they’re going to cut off your arm, just because there’s a .01% chance that later in life you’ll get really bad Gangrene and it’ll have to come off then anyways. Would you do it? Btw, doctors get paid quite a bit for each vax they give, so they’ll say anything to get you to get your vax. :blah:
Just because you’re vaxed for something, doesn’t mean you won’t get it. Vaxes aren’t 100%.
I dont know…I just do what my doc tells me ;) . Hey its your choose. I havt got sick yet though. But then again I tend to stay away from people who even sneeze lol.
Love the new skin i’ll be using it when im not using the Alyssa one. You should be able to get some cream for those nipples at a chemist or somthing, poor things have had the life sucked outta them :haha:
Woah, Shannon.. calm down. Everyone has opinions. Don’t try to force your own opinions of anyone else. Some people choose to vaccinate, while others don’t. It’s TOTALLY up to them. Sure, statistics show that “vaxing” a baby can lead to certain thing but vaccinating prevents more things then it could rarely contract. Please don’t argue. It doesn’t solve anything.
Hey shannons cool, she got upset cuz i kinda insulted her a first.
It won’t be the same thing as The Black Plague, but if these illnesses re-emerge, then there will be serious threats because people don’t have immunitites to them.
I had all my vaccinations, including 2 MMRs (one when I was 15 months old and one when I was 11 years old) and I never became Autistic. A lot of people have the shots and have no problem. It’s easy to blame the shots for the problems, but there’s just as good a chance that genetics or something else in the child’s life led to those problems.
Yowza. Looks like you’ve sparked quite the debate here, Jenn. :haha: I’m young, childless and rather immature, so I’ll be steering clear of that one.
Anyhow, the new skin is very saxeh. And that picture of Amr holding Alyssa is adorable. :heart:
I don’t think anyone wants to crucify you : P Too bad all these messages, though. Some of them seem to think anyone who disagrees with them is ‘stupid’. People are different, and just because someone’s child is more attached than someone else’s child doesn’t mean either did anything wrong- just DIFFERENT.
Um, sorry, but cow’s milk is for COWS. :dammit:
Actually, I got sick because I WAS vaccinated. Didn’t have anything to do with autism. I do believe that some vaccinations are necessary (tetanus, for example) but some aren’t. And don’t get me started on antibiotics. :blah: Anyway, not trying to start anything here…just, neither of you are bad parents because you choose to vaccinate or not to vaccinate – it’s competely up to the parents and I respect that.
I also know people who’ve had zero vaccinations and are perfectly fine.
Again, completely up to the parent.
And doctors know everything, don’t they. :blah:
So i suppose its NORMAL for a 3 year old to be stuck to a tit. No, cows milk is produced for humans, always has been. What do u drink then? your mammas breast milk stilll?
Aww, I love seeing her “evolve” into her own little person, face, etc. What a cutie
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Wow… you don’t like the thought of being looked down upon because you don’t give your children vaccines, but you look down upon those who do? You know, there are parents who do their research about vaccines and still choose to get their kids shots. Get off your high horse and stop criticizing everyone for having a different parenting style than you. You’re acting much more pathetic than anyone else here…
I totally agree with you about the attatchment parenting thing. I really do like some aspects of it but… some mothers take it so overboard, it’s scary.
Like I said before, you are doing a great job with Alyssa. You are raising her how YOU see fit, and you have HER best interests in mind. Don’t worry what anyone else says to you. She is YOUR daughter, not anyone elses. :heart:
How is her rash, by the way? DId the flea/cat thing have any effect on it so far?
That was supposed to be replied and attached above. Damnit. Oh, well. Heh. :dammit:
Cows milk is so bad for humans. :headache:
then i guess me and about 75% of the populations are bad mothers
Awww, Amr and Alyssa are adorable together. My aunt didn’t vax her kids, they’re always sick. Like, they miss 2-5 days a month of school because of it…. My mom got us (3 of us) vaccinated and my brothers are lucky to get sick once a year, me on the other hand, well, i get seasonal sicknesses and such. *shrug* You’re most definitely not a bad mother at all.
Christ, perhaps we could differ WITHOUT the personal insults? :sarcastic:
I agree with you, children need their independence. If not, they will never want to go make friends, or do things without their mommy close by. And the breastfeeding when their toddlers, I know a little boy who is still breastfeeding at age 5! How rediculous is that?! It’s like, get of the breast and on to some REAL food!
cows milk was not made for humans. Cows milk was made for baby calfs – just like our breast milk was made for baby humans.
Our bodies have a hard time breaking down the enzymes in cows milk – which is why so many humans are lactose intollerant.
so what are babies suppose to drink after age one, 5, 10 ya know? like i said i guess im a bad mother and so is every one else.
Kudos to you Jenn for being a beacon of reason.
The entire arguement that children should not be vaccinated is the biggest load of crap I’ve ever heard.
And actually, diseases like polio, typhoid, etc are still around. Try going to West Africa some time.
The scariest thing about the Internet is that people grow to trust it over trained professionals. THE INTERNET IS NOT A BETTER RESOURCE THAN ACTUAL SCIENTISTS OR MEMBERS OF THE MEDICAL FIELD.
The conspiracy theorists boggle my mind, as it is largely a reliance on junk science – science that assumes causation = correlation, which is something that gives us arguements like “night lamps cause near sighteness in toddlers”
The ability to digest cow’s milk is largely genetic. Children up to the age of five or so have the maximum amount of the enzyme lactase in the lumen of their small intestines, and depending on genetic factors, they may or may not lose their ability to digest milk. This is why countries in Asia and Africa have virtually no dairy products in their foods – it is not part of their genetic makeup.
If you can eat it and you like it, (cheese is divine, anyway) by all means eat it. If not, getting preachy is stupid. It’s not going to kill your babies.
Also, I’d have to agree with Jenn on the fact that most mothers are derranged. Babies were designed to be pretty resiliant, and if you have looked at a baby catalogue anytime soon you would think that the human baby is made of glass.
And interesting tidbit on the neurological development of babies: They are not born with working limbic systems, the part of the brain that transferrs all sensory input into an emotional response.
This means that when a baby laughs or cries early in development, it’s not happy or sad. It’s actually an adaptive response. Being “happy” and “cute” makes it so that the mothers of the world don’t want to stuff wailing infants into garbage cans. I think it’s evolutionary genius really.
/I love studying neuroscience.
/Limbic system or no, Alyssa is a doll.
Sorry, guys. I had every intention of using line breaks but I accidentally unchecked the box at the bottom.
Sorry! :dammit:
If i was smart i wouldve said the same thing
You are all kinds of awesome. :highfive: