People who don’t have children of their own should really think twice before opening their mouth and letting venomous and ignorant comments fly. Unless you’ve been there (and I’m not talking about babysitting or seeing how somebody else raised their child; it doesn’t count unless you’re doing it yourself), you really don’t know. Ladies, please, go back to the things you actually know about. That’s all I really have to say about that. Actually, there’s more I could say, but I’m biting my tongue, as I have more important things to worry about than stooping to the level of nastiness that these people love to resort to.
My mother is recovering well from her surgery (Tuesday morning). She still can’t cook, get dressed by herself (have you ever tried to hook a bra or tie shoes with one hand?) or drive, so I’ve been here all week. I’m going home later today for a bit, but then I’ll be back in the evening to make dinner for her and my brothers. Alyssa is sleeping right now. I think we may finally have some sort of sleeping schedule going on! For the past five nights she’s gone to sleep between 9:00pm-11:00pm, may or may not wake up between 4:00am-5:00am for something to eat, and then goes back to sleep until 8:30am-10:00am. :whew: That’s much better than her being turned around the other way, so that she was up all night/morning!
This week has really taken a lot out of me. :dead: With the exception of Tuesday night-Thursday afternoon (Alyssa was with Daniel then. Thank goodness for the husband stepping in to take care of her so that I could take care of me! :nod:), I’ve been taking care of Alyssa, my mother and my brothers. There’s been cooking, cleaning, kids to get up and get dressed, and lots of errands to run. Plus, I’ve been over to my house several times to catch up on cleaning there. :whew: And to think, in January my mother will be having carpal tunnel surgery on her other hand. :ack:
I originally planned on going back to work next week, but at this point I don’t know if I’m up for it. I kind of want to wait another few weeks to get my milk supply established, and I’m still really tired. I don’t think I’ve had more than one good night of sleep since a week before I had Alyssa. Plus, now that my mom has had her surgery, she wouldn’t be able to watch Alyssa for me (we agreed that I’d pay her $40 per week for watching Alyssa while I worked – that’d be about 15-20 hours per week) anyway. Hmmm. So, it looks like I won’t be going back. My first concern is definitely getting my milk supply well established. It’s worth passing up that little bit of extra income (around $350 per month) in order to be able to continue breastfeeding Alyssa. Not only because breastmilk is so much better for her, but also because of how much formula costs. I figured out that as of now, with Alyssa drinking about 16-20 oz. or so per day (it’s kind of hard to tell how much she gets from nursing, but I do know what she drinks from bottles), we’d be spending about $150-$200 per month on formula. :eye-popping:
I cannot believe that Christmas :christmastree: is almost here! Only 21 days to go… :ohmy: And as usual, I don’t have any Christmas shopping done. Well, not for actual presents, anyway. I do have a few stocking stuffers, and a Spongebob-themed game console on lay-a-way at Wal-mart. Daniel and I won’t be doing our Christmas shopping until around the 17th-18th, because this week’s paycheck went right for rent, car insurance, and my negative bank account (long story… :irked:). Our next paycheck will go for utilities ($130 for cable/internet, $50 for phone, $50 for electric), and the rest will be for saving and of course, Christmas shopping! :sing: I’m so happy… we’ll once again be back on track with our budgeting. It’s amazing how long it took us to bounce back from the car repair bills in October. But then, $1200 isn’t anything to sneeze at. :no: That’s about $400 short of Daniel’s monthly income.
Okay, enough of money-related things. Oh! I know what I wanted to mention. Christmas cards! I need to contact several people for their mailing addresses. If you would like a Christmas card, e-mail me your address.
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, on December 12 2004 at 7:31am:
I just don’t get why Mary Poppins felt the need to comment at all. :sarcastic:
, on December 12 2004 at 7:41am:
Aaaww ur babys first xmas 
hope you have a good one. That post on the forum !! Some people just dont know ggrrr why does she think she is the perfect mother or something??
, on December 12 2004 at 7:50am:
Omg, i just read that reply. I hate when people think they know everything. Anyway your the mother, and mothers know best right? Hope you and your family have an awesome christmas 
, on December 12 2004 at 8:16am:
Ahhh, the joys of the Women, Infants and Children Program. Its called WIC. You should check it out. You get about 20 cans a month in formula and milk, butter and all that jazz. Or if your brestfeeding, all the heathly food you need. And get this…its FREE. Gotta love it
, on December 12 2004 at 8:35am:
im a tax payer. I dont complain that my money is going to people who need it. not everyones rich.
, on December 12 2004 at 8:36am:
Oh and if shes on wic why is she saying it will cost her money for formula? so shes not on it.
, on December 12 2004 at 8:49am:
She has stated several times in her blog, since before Alyssa was even born, that she is on WIC. I know what I am talking about, don’t act like I am stupid. :sarcastic:
, on December 12 2004 at 8:53am:
Did i say you were stupid? No. Geez what s it with b=people in this country? There all so defensive. If shes on wic then why is she saying she hasta pay for formula? I was on wic and i never paid for formula.
, on December 12 2004 at 9:00am:
WIC is different in each state. Some states will not pay for formula if a woman declares that she is breastfeeding. Some states will only pay for a certain amount of formula. And some states WIC programs won’t pay for formula AT ALL.
I do not know WHY Jenn stated she would have to pay for formula. It could be any of the reasons above or it come be something else. However, she has said, in her blog, that she IS on WIC. Here (http://www.kiss-my-kitty.com/index.php?p=1534) is an example. She says, and I quote, “I do however, have WIC, so that’s a little something.”
, on December 12 2004 at 9:11am:
Alyssa is a bit of an old name LOL! Also stop trying to show off about having a kid its nothing to be proud of at your age! Oh and you either blog abt sex, lunch, or your baby. BROKEN RECORD!!!!!
, on December 12 2004 at 9:14am:
I think the comment that girl left you is her opinion and she’s entitled to that.. But what her friend wrote on her blog, and posted on the forum wasn’t very nice at all.. Im sorry.
, on December 12 2004 at 9:15am:
LOL retard. Shes married and shes 20. Whats not to be proud of. Its the norm. And alyssa? Thats a beautiful name and I never hear it. Get over your self. I bet your friends with “S” right? Jen never gets negative feedback so you must be part of her lil clique.
, on December 12 2004 at 12:18pm:
As with real life, there will always be those who think they know how to raise your child better than you. Just listen to your pediatrician and your instinct and you’ll do fine. I’m glad you’re taking all of this drama with a grain of salt. The last thing a new mom needs is more stress! lol
Also, the job can wait, your passing it up for a great reason – Alyssa.
, on December 12 2004 at 12:40pm:
Tell your mom i know how she feels, i was born with 1 arm. and i do every thing by my self (bra shoes ect) she can do it there is a way. just e-mail me and i can give you some tips oh how she can do it her self. so yes. it is HARD but very do able.
, on December 12 2004 at 12:50pm:
If you don’t like what Jenn posts on her OWN site, don’t read it. Also, I take personal offence to your “Also stop trying to show off about having a kid its nothing to be proud of at your age” My sister is 21, and she’s 8 months pregnant. She’s been married since she was 19 to probably the nicest guy i’ve ever known. Just because Jenn is young does NOT mean she’s not a capable mother. I suggest keeping your rude comments to yourself. Karma does great things.
, on December 12 2004 at 1:08pm:
The thread has been deleted. I read the first page of comments, but when I clicked on page two, it had been deleted.
Some people are idiots, just ignore them. They’re just trying to get a rise out of you.
, on December 12 2004 at 1:10pm:
I’ve been sick for a while, and I’m glad to come back and read that everything is great with you guys (especially that you’re getting ‘Jenn Time’) :vibes: Take care.
, on December 12 2004 at 1:13pm:
The girls should just get of your back. You are doing a great job with Alyssa, that is what I think.
Do you think Daniel or maybe a friend of yours can step in and help you out with all the stuff you have going on at the moment? Or maybe a friend of your mothers or something. You should watch out that you aren’t overdoing it!
Merry christmas, in advantage
, on December 12 2004 at 1:33pm:
I take offense to that comment…. I’m 22 years old and had a baby 3 months ago. Not to mention I’m a married woman. Regardless of how old anyone is, doesn’t make them bad. Back in the day, women were married at 16 and having babies. It’s none of your business if someone has a baby at age 20 or age 40. She’s an adult and she’s married. Get a life!!!
, on December 12 2004 at 2:13pm:
“This week has really taken a lot out of me” I know how you feel! I’m sure I’m not as exausted as you, but I’ve been packing, painting, cleaning, babysitting all week. I’m happiest while asleep. XD
, on December 12 2004 at 2:39pm:
Im not married so i definitly take offense to that. i have 2 kids and im 21.
, on December 12 2004 at 2:51pm:
Oh I’d love a Christmas card. And I will know to take the REMOVE out. ;-)
, on December 12 2004 at 3:12pm:
Money issues suck 
I would know at the moment :(. At least you’ll be back on track soon Don’t work yourself too hard with going back to work and caring for everyone! :heart:
, on December 12 2004 at 3:47pm:
hi, i dont know u, but i jus wanna say congrats, and u have a very pretty lil girl :vibes:
, on December 12 2004 at 3:52pm:
I just wanna warn you I think that http://www.after-all.net girl is obsessed with you, she’s mentioned you on about 3 blogs from her archives. Nah shes not jealous or anything is she? GOD, I HATE bitches like that who blatantly write about you, but don’t actually directly reply or type your url… faggots.
, on December 12 2004 at 4:04pm:
I hope those morons stop talking shit about you now! Anyway yup Christmas is coming :vibes: Alyssa’s first
, on December 12 2004 at 4:33pm:
Can’t see the thread but I think i get the picture of what you wrote.
I was wondering if you recieved my card?
And yeah, Christmas is already here (well technically :P) it seems as though yesterday i was here with the table laid out nice and the christmas tree with a tonne of deco. around…
, on December 12 2004 at 5:20pm:
I think it’s ridiculous how people keep judging you, they evidently lack lives of their own if they need to comment on how you’re raising Alyssa or what you talk about in your blog. If they don’t like it they can click the X in the upper right corner. I think you’re doing an excellent job with Alyssa.
, on December 12 2004 at 5:30pm:
Looks like the dumb broad had to close most of her message board down. and she put her blog where she disses you into archives so people can’t comment. She’s such an idiot.
You really don’t have to explain yourself Jennifer. You’ve been a great mom and those who haven’t even been keeping track of your comments and stuff should STFU!!! :angelic:
, on December 12 2004 at 5:45pm:
You’re baby girl is soo adorable.
My sister and uncle both got that kind of surgery done, and I had to help my sister 24/7 with taking a shower and all of that stuff.
Have fun Christmas shopping!, I know I will. =P
, on December 12 2004 at 5:48pm:
Hey Jenn, I saw your cam picture, and I think your daughter is just absolutely beautiful. You must be so proud. :vibes:
, on December 12 2004 at 6:34pm:
someone else mentioned it before, but this could be a ploy just to get some extra attention on her site/forum.
they went too far with starting a thread on bashing you. its just not right.
, on December 12 2004 at 7:48pm:
I totaly agree with what u said about people who don’t have children giving people who have them advice. I’l 15, but i know how much i annoy my mum and how some people just look down there noses at her when i was little ‘hasn’t raised her children right’. and she has. some people really deserve one right between the eyes. :laugh: lol.
, on December 12 2004 at 7:48pm:
I also take offense to this. I am 24 and have a 5 month old. I’ve been married since I was 19. I’ve been with this guy since I was 16. So shut the hell up, this is exactly what Jenn was talking about. You don’t know what you’re talking about. Having a baby at ANY age is the most wonderful, precious, most miraculous thing in the world. A baby puts sense in your life. Why don’t you get a life??
, on December 12 2004 at 7:58pm:
Jen, you’re Allyssa’s one and only mommy. YOU Only you know your child well enough to raise her the way she needs to be raised. It’s just something about mommy’s… my daughter only wants me to be put asleep, when scared/crying/etc. You’ll see. :hug:
, on December 12 2004 at 8:12pm:
dont you worry about what anyone else says..you are an AWESOME mom! Parenting is one of the hardest jobs you’ll ever have. Oh and to the person who commented on what Jen writes about..umm it is HER journal, she can write about whatever the hell she wants to write about. If you dont like it, dont visit her site!!
, on December 12 2004 at 11:32pm:
Hey, if yer white trash, then so am I. And so are a lot of your readers. Let’s all be white trash together LOL.
Seriously tho… I am 21 and had a kid when I was 20. I got pregnant before I was married. Shit happens… but hey, FUCK IT.
, on December 12 2004 at 11:47pm:
omg I have to laugh at some of this stuff …
comment on WIC : Have it … GOD SEND … and yeah considering that she’s breastfeeding MOSTLY they probably have her under as that and not post partum (where they give you 9 cans – or whatever – a month) so they give her stuff for her body to help the baby ..
and comment on ‘you shouldn’t be bragging about having a kid at that age …’ : um yeah hello!! I turned 20 in may .. and in july gave birth to triplets .. so take offense to that!! I am married … have been for 2 months now but geez …. watch what you say … it’s so uncool!!
Jenn great work your baby is sooo precious!! just ignore them all you got some lovin’ going on for you and your baby!! :hug:
, on December 12 2004 at 12:25am:
I can never do Christmas Shopping because I always run out of money (Considering I’m 13) Alyssa is adorable!
Just imagine her first Christmas.
You are going well with Alyssa. When my mum had me she was really worried about stuff. Like if I had one cough she would go straight to the doctors :shock: I felt sorry for the doctors when I heard about it.
, on December 12 2004 at 1:29am:
Does helping raise your younger sister count, even if she isn’t YOUR daughter??
, on December 12 2004 at 5:43am:
*glares at mail men* too slow! lol i cant wait to have my own children really :heart:so adorable ^_^ i hope the jealous feans leave ya alone. ah wells…toodles :hug:
, on December 12 2004 at 5:50am:
Jenn never gets negative feedback?! Are you kidding?! She bitches about everyone so much she probably has more bad comments than good, you just don’t see most of them because they get posted on other people’s blogs or forums (like the one she linked to in this entry)!! Ok, so this time it was really her fault, I admit that. But the other 35409450 times were.
, on December 12 2004 at 8:39am:
Hi! My first comment. Yay!
First, I must say that you’re the best mom to your child. No one knows her better than you do and you know what to do with her and what’s not to. Anyone else who says you’re wrong aren’t a parent. They just have no clue.
I don’t know so much about you or your family, but your little daughter is absolutely gorgeous! Sooo pretty!
And if you don’t wanna breastfeed you do not suck as a mother! There are lots of babies that don’t get brestfed and they manage to get a life too. I know, for a fact, because my daughter has a syndrome so she couldn’t suck for 5 months… so NO I couldn’t brestfeed her and I’m not a lousy mother for that!
So, hold your head high.
Alyssa couldn’t have a better mommy than you!
, on December 12 2004 at 10:54am:
Im soo sensing a hatelisting. But I don’t want to waste my site space on HER.
As the domain name suggests, my name is Jenn, and I own this blog. I'm 26 years old and married to my one true ♥, Daniel. And while I have two kids (Alyssa is five, and Ryan is three), you won't find "mommy" in my username or email address, nor does my blog revolve around them. I'm a mother, but most importantly I am me, with a passion for love, blogging, reading, and photography. I'm also a busy freelance writer, web designer & SEO goddess, and a blogger relations person for an adult toy company.
That girl is retarded. I replied to her blog on her main website. I 100% agree with you, I’ve seen baby cereal before, the stuff practially dissolves. My mother feeds it to her friends baby Ellie, whos about the same age as Alyysa and she’s fine. She’s a perfectly healthy baby. These people don’t have a clue what their talking about, that don’t have babies so what would they know? Their fucking morons. :laugh: