Edited @ 8:44am to add: I bet these girls posting about it being offensive/something they wouldn’t want to see in public probably wouldn’t think twice about strutting around in some whorish outfit. Like I said in my entry, I’ve shown more cleagvage in low cut shirts!
I think this is a pretty accurate picture:
Saturday afternoon, in the midst of driving all over [private] county (well, it seemed that way!) for my mother, doing her numerous errands, she decides to stop for lunch. So, we go to Wendys. Now, it’s a Saturday afternoon. It’s Saturday, December 4th. The first Saturday on the first weekend of December. Needless to say, the stores and restaurants are absolutely mobbed with frantic Christmas shoppers. Did I mention it’s about 12:30pm? So of course it’s time for these frantic shoppers to have lunch, just like we are!
So… we get inside Wendys, and I pick a table that’s in the corner of the store, set down away from other tables, and slightly more private than the others because of being in a corner and sort of “behind” a brick wall. Why do I pick this table? Because Alyssa is fussing. Not the, “I’m bored, hold me” kind of fuss, but the, “Goddammit Mom I’m hungry whip out that boob NOW before I really start to scream” type of fuss. So, as discreetly as possible, I get everything positioned and Alyssa is latched on and eating happily. No real boobage is shown, nobody even paid attention to what I was doing, my mother and brothers come over with the food, and we eat (well, they eat. I needed both hands. One to hold Alyssa, the other to hold my breast off of her face… ya know, because she needs to breathe and all that.)
Not quite five minutes later my mother decides she wants to move to another table. Why? Because the one where we’re currently at is in direct line of the sun, and it’s hot. :eyeroll: Maybe if she had taken off her coat she wouldn’t have been hot. So, okay, whatever, let’s move. Where do we move to? A table that’s in a nice and shady spot, but isn’t quite as isolated. For one thing, it isn’t in the corner of the store, and for another, the moment we sit down at this table groups of people immediately occupy three tables that are surrounding us. In fact, diagnonal from us are a group of four guys. Whatever.
I take this opportunity to quickly wolf down my lunch. Meanwhile, Alyssa is rooting away at my shirt, leaving little drool spots here and there. Within two minutes I’ve finished my sandwich, so I (once again), discreetly use just two hands to cradle Alyssa’s upper body/neck/back of head to my breast, lift my shirt slightly, position a nipple shield over a nipple, and put Alyssa on, all the time somehow making my fingers stretch upwards so as to keep my breast off her face (the breathing thing again…).
This whole ordeal took no more than ONE minute to accomplish, with minimal breast being revealed (honestly, people have seen more breast from me when I’ve worn low-cut shirts!) and absolutely NO nipple being shown at all), and once Alyssa was in place my shirt was back down, and a light blanket was draped over her head/my chest so as to provide more privacy.
My mother: “Geez Jenn, you’re so embarrassing!”
Me: “Whatever.” (in my head: “Geez Mom, fuck you too!”)
She breastfed me, and I know she didn’t just stay in the house until I was three months old (she told me why she stopped breastfeeding me that early, but at this moment in my ranting rampage I forget what it is), so I’d like to know what she did then when she was out in public with me. Besides, I’d like to see her do what I just did (she never had to use a nipple shield) with just two hands and without revealing more than what was revealed.
Grrrrrr.
Breastfeedig in public is so common. There’s nothing embarassing about it, unless you’re just flashing boob all over the place. Not only did a coach at my ice rink breastfeed her daughter until she was like, 2, but she was never very discreet about it, just sitting on a bench in the middle of the rink and breastfeeding April, no blanket or anything. Sometimes moms can just drive you nuts huh?
if no one saw then why is it embarassing??? even if they did you would only be the one who blushed lol so why does any one else are… people are so silly, I never breast fed but i pumped and this young guy saw lol i was in my car at the back of a parking lot and was just finishing and didnt think and one was around… lol thats what i get for thinking!!! and my sister in law was in the back seat leaning over to feed her baby on a trip to vegas and this motorcycle guy kept looking in (this was after she was finished feed ing the baby) and then realize why… her shirt was still up :dammit: dont let it get to you your doing whats best for Alyssa so thats all tgat matter… if people give you a dirty look either smile or give them a dirty look right back!!!
I can see why your mom said it was emberassing. There’s just some things that you don’t do at a restaurant. Just because it’s common, it doesn’t mean it’s normal to do in public. Picking your nose is common, but it’s not a decent thing to do. :yuck:
Hey Mommy! :hug: No offense but I personally would be embarrassed also. I have only seen maybe 5 or so woman breastfeeding in public and was embarrassed just glancing at them. Isn’t there away to bottle the milk and take it along when you are in public? Just a thought to not embarrass others around you….but if you are comfortable doing it then whip it out and feed her. If anyone says anything just say “HEY MY CHILDS GOTTA EAT!”
breastfeeding well in england is not common in public places , like in the main shopping malls and cafe’s i think the government were trying to ban it!. i think woman have the right to breatfeed in public. If you want to do it you should.
My neighbour breast fed in the shopping mall once. She has one of them blankets that look somewhat like a cape, that wraps around her neck and covers the baby. Some girl told her to be more prvate, and well honestly she was as private about it as it was going to get. The girl tried to take her to court, of course it got thrown out. My god people need to feed their kids! :heart:
boys will be boys, any sign of any boobage and their like dogs scronging for food!
It’s a shame you’re so misinformed and ignorant on the subject.
Just where would you feed YOUR baby if you breastfed and were out in public with no bottles?
It’s a shame you’re so misinformed and ignorant on the subject.
Just where would you feed YOUR baby if you breastfed and were out in public with no bottles?
Why the heck do people find it so offensive? It’s not as if you got up on the table and did a strip tease.
I dunno guys. This is a touchy subject and each person has their own perspective. When I had my first child 11 years ago, I wouldn’t dream of breastfeeding in a restaurant because it just made me so self conscious. And I had to admit to myself that it’s something I wouldn’t wanna catch a glimpse of while eating, either. I would have pumped and used a bottle like someone else here already suggested, or I would have fed my baby in the car. Yes women should have the right to feed their babies anywhere they choose, but sometimes it’s not so simple I guess.
You do realize how stupid you sound, right? It IS normal for a woman to breastfeed in a restaurant. She wasn’t picking her nose, she was feeding her child. How you can connect the two is mind boggling. :sarcastic:
:haha: :highfive:
:shock: um yeah….how about no? Its completly normal. :headache:
Well you should’ve felt bad, Jenn! I mean, *of course* everyone else’s feelings of embarrassment come before your daughter’s nutrition.
Honestly, it’s as though some people expect you to be locked up in the house until you’re finished breastfeeding. You did it as discreetly as possible, that’s all anyone can ask for.
Everyone always has a different perspectice on this one. I figure… It has to be done right? When done disceetly, does it really hurt anyone? Not really. It’s life and natural.
:laugh: lmao @ the picture :haha:
Actually, I doubt I would ever go out without a bottle. And I don’t plan on breastfeeding in the first place.
When you breastfeed, you shouldnt HAVE to go out with a bottle. Last time i checked, breastfeeding meant feeding with the BREAST, not a bottle.
I think its totally valid to find it embarressing. It’s just one of those things, some people will see it as something natural and fine…others will be like me and just think its something that should be kept out of the public eye, you can’t call one view wrong and another right…thats just the way it works.
I say as long as theres respect from both sides it doesnt matter. If someone was breastfeeding while i was trying to eat (i’m sorry but thats even more gross when people are trying to eat!!) then i’d move to a different table rather than go ‘ewww put ya tit away’ just as i’d expect the breastfeeding woman to have the same respect and not deliberatly shove it in my face and at least attempt to be discreet and only do it if totally neccisary…and not all bother with that!
I know from expeirence that a lot have the attitude of ‘Hey, im feeding my child, its the most natural thing in the world, if you dont like it thats YOUR problem!’
Why should it be embarrising to breastfeed in public? That’s so stupid! My god, haven’t anyone seen a breast before or what?
Why is is gross when someone is trying to eat? The beby needs to eat too, or shouldn’t she get anything to eat just because ppl has trouble with it?
I can’t believe this… if a girl is sitting next to your table with a shirt that’s revealing more than you wanna see, should you do the same thing? Tell her that she’s embarrising? I don’t think so.
It’s okay to look like a “whore” but you cannot breastfeed in public.. how sick isn’t that?!
The picture says it all!
As to my previous comment Im not saying I find it offensive Im saying it just makes me feel alittle uncomfortable. There’s a difference between feeling offensive and feeling embarrassed. And yes I would feel the same way as if some girl would walk by dressed like a “whore”! :yuck:
And she does drink bottles and breastfeed Jennifer has mentioned it in her post when she takes her to her mom’s she bottle feeds.
And Im also not saying its wrong or not to do. I was just suggesting the bottle because her mom was uncomfortable with it.
Just have to say, breastfeeding shouldn’t be embarassing at all! *rolls eyes* When I was interviewed for my current job, my boss breastfed their daughter *while* interviewing me. Big deal! It’s a child eating, it’s not a striptease and live blowjob! :sarcastic:
I think it is totally okay for a woman to breastfeed in public. You did a lot of things to be discreet so next time your mother tells you off, maybe ask her what she did when she out in public with you when you are an infant
Merry christmas jennifer, alyssa and daniel
I don’t mind women breastfeeding in public. I’ve only ever had bad experiences with it though. Like, once I was in a craft store, and I walked into this isle to get my brother some markers ofr a project (after our dog had just eaten almost all of them at home) and this woman was breastfeeding. I could have cared less. I was just looking for some farking MARKERS and this woman screams at me saying “CAN’T YOU SEE I’M TRYING TO BREASTFEED?” I looked at her like Bitch, please. You’re the one doing it in the middle of an isle of a craft store when everyone and his brother could have walked in on her.
It’s sad that something so natural has been turned into something dirty. Society is really mesed up when everywhere you look you see boobs in your face (just look at a victorias secret commercial or in any magazine) but when someone wants to feed their child the natural way it’s “embarressing.” Not to mention the fact that because of the way people think a lot of women probably aren’t breat feeding when they should be!
Your complete and total ignorance and stupidity amazes me. :D
I breastfed my daughter and while out I would find a family bathroom/women’s restroom, my car, etc to feed her at until I introduced the bottle. It was never a hassle to do so.For me it wasn’t embarassing at all, BUT it is a private thing when you are revealing your breast even if it is for an innocent and wonderful purpose as feeding your child. As well as the fact as people can and normally will turn it into something sexual. I breastfed in privacy out of respect for my fellow shoppers/eaters/etc and for myself. Some women could care less about those types of things but I was raised different. Awesome you breastfed your lil angel though no matter where it may be. XD
Why would you breastfeed in a bathroom? Thats disqusting. Would YOU wanna eat in a bathroom? Didnt think so.
As long as it doesnt smell bad in the toilet or anything… I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that at all…