Look! My :ipod: ipod is on its way! Wow, I’m so excited. :bounce: I had been googling around the other night, and found that most people waited at least three-four weeks after being approved before their ipod was even shipped. Well, my account was approved only three days ago. Whoo hoo! :yay: Anyway, it’s due to be here tomorrow, so I’ll be sure to let you all know… 
(Once again, thank you to the people who completed an Ipod offer! You’ll be receiving an e-mail from me shortly.)
I have a new layout up. It’s white/gray, simple, but cute (in my opinion, anyway :heart:). It’s set as the default theme, but if you don’t see it, click here.
Once I finish writing this entry, I’m diving back into more HTML. I’m determined :nod: to have this damn site XHTML validated!
I’m feeling a tad bit really stressed out.
To sum it up briefly: Yusef (my nine year old brothers) has a lot of mental/developmental/emotional problems. He has three therapists, several caseworkers, takes lots of medication, etc. Well, because of some things he has said and done, including exposing himself to others, he’s been seeing a sex therapist for the past few weeks (this is relevant, and in a moment you’ll read why).
Well, Yusef’s newest thing (we’re not sure if he’s doing it for attention, if he’s just hallucating, or both) is to come up with outrageous things to tell teachers, therapists, etc. He’s told a teacher at school that my mother beats him (when he was merely questioned about a small scratch he had on his face), and he’s told a previous therapist that he and his brother liked to put their penises in each other’s butts (obviously, not true). A few weeks ago he was also swearing up and down to his therapists that he saw Daniel and I having sex (not true).
Well, today has really done it. Yusef told his sex therapist that I used to make both Yusef and Amr take showers with me. Now, I have never done such a thing. I’ve given them baths, but never have I brought them into a shower with me. Never. We all know this. … But that didn’t stop the sex therapist from calling Children and Youth (social services)… on me.
So now there’s a whole big fiasco with the therapists and case workers trying to communicate to one another as well as get in touch with the supervisor of Children and Youth (who is aware of this ongoing problem with Yusef). A Children and Youth caseworker has contacted my mother to find out my address, and will be coming with a police officer (since it’s sexual abuse case that’s been reported) to my house tomorrow.
My mother says that the case managers for Yusef/Yusef’s therapists will get in touch with the C & Y supervisor to get things ironed out, but in the meantime the caseworker handling this “case” has ordered my mother to not allow me to have any “unsupervised contact” with Yusef.
I’m really, really worried that this is going to get blown out of proportion and that they might decide to take Alyssa from me… blah. I’m sorry if what I’m writing here is just a big jumble of this and that, but I’m really upset and not thinking too rationally. All I know is that for now, the caseworker who is handling this “case” is in charge, and knows nothing of Yusef’s problems, and just sees me as a sexual predator…
I don’t know what I’ll do if they take Alyssa from me, even if it’s only temporary.
Oh my gosh! *huggles*
Has anyone ofyour family members sat down with Yusef? Was this sudden or gradual? OMG.
I wouldn’t worry too much about Alyssa. You are innocent. When they see that most of the things he’s saying aren’t true, you’ll be ok.
OMG!!! i feel so sorry for you! if your brother is normal, i dont think he should do such a stupid thing. i dont think he’s imagining things cos it’s unbelievable. i really really hope you get thru this. I dont think they will take your daughter away from you. honestly. you better take care of yourself.
Omg that’s horrible! I’m so sorry that you’re going through that. My families had social services out at our house before but not for the same reasons. I hope things get fixed and that you can put this all behind you.
Oh god, that’s horrible. :yuck: I’m sorry.
Oh wow, I’m sorry about all that!! I really do hope it’ll get fixed and that they wouldn’t make you get in trouble!!
Oohhhh, cool. I hope your ipod arrives in the mail soon
Also, I do like your new layout. It is very cute :heart:
Oh wow…. I am so sorry about all this problem you’ve been having. That’s awful! Sex therapist? What kind of methods is he using? I think it would break everyone’s heart if they take Alyssa away. I pray they won’t
I know I double posted. For some reason I thought that was part of a different entry.
very cute layout! as always you’re a pro. I have a question … the hearts on the side of your layout with your nav … where did you get it? If it’s yours can would it be ok if I used it? If not I totally understand. Anyway, keep up the awesome work!!
Jesus! That is horrible, no one should take Alyssa away from you. You should talk to Yusef and your mother.
Maybe you should talk to Yusef about what he’s doing. Not with a therapist, but like a family intervention. Oh yeah, and uh, congrats on getting the ipod. I wish I had one too. :frustrated:
That’s crazy
I hope it all gets sorted out 
Oh no… thats horrible. I dont think they will take Alyssa off you, surely they are smart enough tolook and see Yusefs mental problems and see you and work out his just wanting a bit of attention? *hugs*
aww poor jennifer dw im sure it will all get sorted out i mean who on earth would believe for a second that YOU would do something like that?sorry to hear though
oh my! *huggles* dont worry!! we all know that you are totally innocent and this person who is handling the “case” will realise that it was all one big misunderstanding!!
:O omg i hope everything turns out ok! Loving the layout xx
o geez.. But I’m sure they can’t take Alyssa away from you.. I mean you say everyone know that you haven’t done these things.. :ohmy:
hope everyhing turns out ok!
Oh Jenn thats horrible! I feel sorry for you and I am worried about your brother Yusef :no: why is he saying all this to his therapists? I am sure if your mom and everyone supports you on this, nothing will happen wrong. Don’t worry about alyssa being taken away from you. They can not do it! Everything will be fine. I hope you feel better soon :hug:
They wont take Alyssa away. They cant, they have no solid proof any of this happened. All they have is the word of your brother, and he is only 9. 9 is a very creative and imaginary age.
By law, they must investigate the case, and you, because of the allegations. But they wont take Alyssa away unless they have enough proof that your brother is telling the truth. Which hes not, so dont worry about it.
If your brother had never had any previous problems, and just suddenly came out with this.. it would be a different story.
Just be honest with the caseworker, which im sure you will. Lying, even to cover up something of non-importance will change everything.
Hang in there, things will get better :hug:
Omg that’s terrible. I hope they wont take Alyssa away from you, but I’m sure they won’t, because they have no proof. I really wish you the best and good luck.
Omg that’s rediculous(sp?). I doubt they will take Alyssa from you or do something unrational when they see that he has these problems. Tell ‘em to give you a lie detector test!
Well good luck hun. :heart:
oh my god. i hope they wont take Alyssa. but as yusef does have problems like you said, and no family members have said anything about this, im sure they wont…
Despite things being hard right now, things will work out. :heart:
Congrats on getting the free Ipod.
Too bad I could’nt have helped you out, only certain non free trial offers are available for Canadians… bleh. Ooh well, Yeah for getting your free Ipod! 
I really do hope that this whole situation with your brother gets resolved quickly. These are some serious matters, but of course any sort of abuse that is disclosed to to anyone weather it be the truth or not is investigated, since it is the law to report. I do not see anyone taking Alyssa away from you, as you have not harmed her or have her in a dangerous home. Once everyone talks to each other (Therapists, Social Workers, etc.. it will blow over)
I wish you the best with all of this.
Oh my…Jenn. :ohmy: I hope that if they decide to pursue any of that, your brother will step up and tell the truth. :hug:
Love the new layout
You always come up with great ideas!
I’m so sorry to hear what’s going on. I know it must be tough enough already with your brother having problems – let alone now you having to be involved. I don’t know too much about the law and what they can do, as far as Alyssa is concerned (it varies by state) – but I will keep you in my prayers. Being a mother as well, I know how devastated you would be if they took her from you. I doubt anything like that would happen tho. It’s crazy that he makes up things like that, and it’s a shame that he had to tell a lie about you and get you in, what could be, serious trouble. I just pray things will be ok for you. Just take it easy and don’t stress too much :hug: :heart:
Oh my…I am so sorry to hear about the troubles you’re going through. You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers. *hugs*
Wow I can’t believe that, if they know about his problem, why are they still investigating you? I really really hate the child services people, out here they will take your child away for the smallest thing like if they get a report (whether its true or not) that ur not taking care of ur child, they’ll take them away, or if your house is a mess, and stupid things like that . I have been so careful since I had my daughter because my sister in law was at the dr. with her son, and he has collic and ouldn’t stop crying, and because of that they assumed she was a bad mother, and child services got involved, i just really cant stand those people whatsoever. But anyways good luck with everything, and I hope all turns out well. :hug:
What an ordeal. I doubt they’ll take Alyssa away from you, but I totally see where you’re coming from.. and I understand being worried. I hope it’s all sorted out soon.
I know you guys have probably tried it.. but has someone sat down with Yusef and told him that the lies impact the family in a negative way? I imagine hearing it from a therapist rather than family makes it different. It’s just so hard at his age to really connect the lying and the consequences. Do they know what caused these issues he’s having to work through?
Oh my goodness Jenn. I don’t even know what to say. :hug: big hugs x100. I’m sure they won’t take Alyssa away from you, but I can’t blame you one bit for being so worried and stressed. I hope everything turns out okay.
Aw honey that really is terrible, but I’m sure that won’t happen. You always think of the worst when stuff like that happens. I’m sure you know that. You are an amazing mother and I don’t see how they would believe him over you. Don’t be down and let them beat you, stay postive and everything will be fine :heart:
Jenn,
as someone who is very familiar with DCF, being a foster mom and adopting a foster child right now I have to tell you that it is all gonna depend on the worker and the state you live in.
First off, the therapist is a dumb ass for calling social services when he knows your brother is making this stuff up. So the same therapist is now supposed to tell your case worker that he knows your brother makes this up but called and got everyone in an uproar for no reason? Makes no sense at all.
I don’t see a valid reason they would ever take Alyssa, but if I were you and you did not like the way the case worker reacted with you tomorrow I would call her supervisor. If she is in your favor and is very understanding I would get something in writing from her. Then I would get something from other therapists and his teachers establishing a pattern from him for your protection in the future.
If he has this problem, and he keeps making stuff up then if he says anything else about you or Daniel and they can establish a pattern from that, and you have a different case worker, then they very well could try and take her. BUT NOT FROM ONE INCIDENT! Just watch your back and get things in writing.
You would be so surprised how long it can take two social workers who are sitting side by side to go oh you went out there huh? This kid makes stuff up huh? It can take months!
On a brighter note the system always works with reuinification to the parents so you are not in any real danger of losing your daughter ever. I’d tell them that you are aware of the increasing problems with your brother and that you are going to minimalize contact between you and him until he makes some progress with things, because your husband and daughter are the most important things to you!
To sum it up….don’t worry you are a good mom.
Hey girlie..
I think that it is more than obvious that your brother has been sexually molested in one way or another at some point in his life.
Being touched in a way that is innapropriate like that, will make a child act out in a very obscene sexual manner, and that includes making stuff up about family members, etc. Because he has been violated, he feels, that others need to be violated also.
I suggest you take a look at his past babysitters, daycare, ANYTHING and find out who could have possibly done something to him, this is really sad. And I feel horrible for your family and their struggles, but my heart really goes out to your littler brother because he has obviously very confused, and very very hurt right now and he does not know how to deal with something, thats why hes acting out so strangely. I wish you all the best, let everyone know whats going on!
Leslie
ranee- all therapists are MANDATED to report any alleged/suspected abuse. that wasn’t them being a dumbass, they were doing their job.
I know- I’ve been studying social work for four years and will work in cps soon.