Directly quoted from a mothering community I’m a part of:
My daughter just turned two months old and is waking several times throughout the night (anywhere from a few times to almost hourly). When she wakes, I give her her binky, and she’ll fall back to sleep until the next waking. I do not pick her up or feed her because I know she is capable of sleeping through the night without feeding
This is in regards to a two month old. Seriously. Wow. I cannot describe how much I’d like to reach through the computer monitor, grab this woman by the throat and soundly throttle her. Instead I settled for replying with, “My honest advice? Feed her! Babies go through several growth spurts during the first few months (and beyond!)!”
What I really wanted to say was something along the lines of, “Have you lost your mind? Babies that young are not programmed to sleep through the night. They eat frequently throughout the day and night, as their bodies digest quickly, especially if their intake consist of breastmilk, as it is not as filling as formula. Instead of shoving a pacifier in the baby’s mouth so you can get some sleep, whip out a breast or grab a bottle and feed your hungry child.”
Wow, that’s really messed up. I know nothing about babies, but I can imagine that poor baby is hungry. That is really sad.
I’d like to tell her to feed her kid too. Geebus . .. yeah, independency rocks. But when you’re 2 months old and can’t walk up to the ‘fridge and get something to eat? That’s just . .. being really mean. Yeah, maybe the kid can las through the night without food, but that doesn’t mean its necessarily good for her.
wow. yea feed the kid for the love of pete. wow. some people just need to die.
She is in effect not providing the necessities for life for her child. How is a 2 month old supposed to know when to eat and when not to eat? Oh, that’s right, the child is 2 months old. Any time is appropriate. Some children are on the breast every hour 24/7. The routine comes later. Right now, her goal is to be there 24/7 to feed her child and help her daughter grow.
Wow, just when I think I’ve heard it all, someone else does something stupid when it comes to parenting… Crystal slept a good five hours last night, that doesn’t mean I’m going to expect that from her every night now..
I wonder what she is thinking! It is true that some children can sleep all through the night without food – but I think it is rare. Of course she should feed her child! – Not all children are alike and can be threated like they are. Hopefully she will be convinced otherwise.
Jeez : / I’ve known since I was SIX that kids wake up all night to eat. I understand not getting up sometimes, because you just -can’t- but deciding that an infant, a newborn really, can sleep through the night like it or not : / is sad. EVERYbody knows that! That’s one of the main reasons I don’t intend to have kids. I’ve had to deal with it for many nights in a row with children I do love but it was enough to let me know I would go insane without being able to say, ‘O.k., they’re yours, YOU get up and take care of them now!’
Grrr. Now you have riled me up again!
OMG she needs feeding! Some people are so stupid.
Omg. I have never heard anything stupid like that before. All people know that babies first few nights they are up constantly through-out the night for feedings and changes …. well ALMOST all people. Thats why they say the first few months are the most stressfull and you dont get a lot of sleep — becuase they need to be fed/changed constantly.
Thats so mean
People are just cruel
I can’t even begin to really comment on that… two months old & she is just shoving a binky in her kids mouth? That poor child is starving!
That is.. I honestly would like to ring that mother’s neck my own self! Instead of shoving that binky in her child’s mouth and letting them starve FEEDTHEM!!@ Why in the heck does she think the child is waking up EVERY hour? Because they are hungry!! Can I please slap some sense into her?
Wow that is absolutely amazing! What a naive woman. Hopefully her child will grow up to be bigger then a lima bean.
that’s very very sad. isn’t it common sense when a child cries throughout the night and they aren’t wet, normally they are HUNGRY? especially being two months old? jeebus.
I fondly agree with you. Is this woman out of her flipping mind! FEED YOUR CHILD. I feel so bad for that helpless baby right now!
Wow. It’s sad to know how many ignorant parents are out there. Like, it’s ok not to know everything but when your baby is at risk you can’t be that ignorant. Ask. I’m guessing she doesn’t take the baby to the doctor too often either because if she had, that topic should have come up and she would know that she’s suppossed to feed the baby, not give her a pacifier!
This is ridiculous.
I knew a person who instead of waking up every hour to feed the baby she would leave the bottle right next to the baby’s mouth. I’m not getting into too much detail because there’s mothers in this blog who would be horrified, but lets just say the results of that retardedness were very tragic.
That makes me sad.
I wonder if she’d enjoy it if she was in an accident that left her in a vegetative state and she was unable to do anything for herself and whoever was caring for her ignored her cries for feeding…
Some people just do not use their brains. And some people shouldn’t be parents!
That is so wrong! Goodness, people that are too lazy to actually feed their baby at night just shouldn’t have one if they aren’t willing to make the sacrifice!
Wow, that’s what I call a lazy parent. Obviously is easier to toss the baby a blanket or a pacifier than wake up, feed her, check her diaper, make her sleep again. I understand why you see red.
(first time commenter, but I visit your blog some times: it’s pretty cool)
Actually that’s not crazy at all. Once babies begin sleeping differently/more, feeding schedules are going to change. You don’t to feed a 3-year-old several times a day like you do a 6-month old. Their needs change.
You don’t know everything about motherhood, Jenn. I don’t think you realize that you come off as pretty arrogant when talking about these things. You’ve had two children, yes, but this does not make you the expert on how a woman should handle her children.
Also, babies wake up when they are HUNGRY. They cry, scream, yell for their food…if her child is not doing this then she is not hungry.
omg this is horrible, this is scary. poor baby. i mean, i dont have babies and i know anyways that you have to feed them several times through the night and the day. god. i feel bad now!
Hmm… The nerve of some people! Check out this question on Yahoo! Answers. I thought I was being harsh in my answer but apparently the public didn’t think so, as mine was voted the best answer. You should have told her what you really thought LO!L
Ok, I am all for kids who need to learn to soothe themselves back to sleep and everything, but 2 months? Never in a million years would I ever let my 2 month old cry it out like that. Poor thing probably needed something to eat or a diaper change. My oldest was always a good sleeper, but he still needed to eat once a night at that age.