Has anyone ever said something to you with the intention of insulting you, but in actuality handed you a backhanded compliment?
For the past decade, I’ve heard many variations of the same two “insults”:
She’s so stuck up/she thinks she’s better than everyone else/she’s conceited.
Why thank you. I pride myself in being confident in my actions and decisions. If that confidence comes across as me being a snob, then so be it. I simply refuse to waver in my choices, and I’ve never been one to just “sit on the fence”.
She has a big mouth/she’s always running her mouth/she’s always got something to say.
I believe the term you’re looking for is opinionated. Or outspoken. Both work fine, and sum up that part of me perfectly. Yes, I have my ideas and opinions about things, and yes, I will speak about them.
What about you? What kind of backhanded compliments have you had tossed your way?
I’m feeling much better than I was nine hours ago. I’m still tired, but a straight six and a half hours worth of sleep can do wonders in regards to improving your attitude. So can the proper vitamins and nutrition. Since having Ryan and making meals here at home every single night, I’ve noticed a huge improvement in how I’m feeling. And if for whatever reason I go more than a meal or two without all of the right things (fruits, vegetables, etc.), I can really feel the difference. Yay nutrients!
And lastly, tell your significant other how much you love him/her. Don’t take him/her for granted. You never know – in the blink of an eye things can change. I recently came across a blog belonging to a woman whose husband died in a car accident two months ago. He was a father of four girls, with twin boys on the way. Can you imagine being that man’s wife and receiving that kind of news?
I cried while reading her journal. I cried for her, and I cried for her children. And then I called Daniel to tell him how much I love him and cherish him. And when he came home last night, I held and hugged and kissed him for quite a while before going to sleep. You just never know what word will be the last, what kiss will be the last…
I like it when people compliment me by trying to be insulting. :B I’m glad you see it the way I do too xD I dunno mans, people have to take pride in what they say so that insults like that don’t faze them as much.
I always tell my man-half that I love him. Because its ilke what you said . . who knows when you’ll see him again? My prayers definately go out to the woman whoes blog you read.
Oh you like her? Then you must be the only one… I CERTAINLY don’t like her and I have never heard anyone else say anything good about her.. You really like her?
I don’t think its an insult – but I do take pride in judging people myself instead of deciding who to like and not to like by listening to other people’s usually lame statements about someone.
Ah the backhanded compliment. I’ve gotten many but, not so surprisingly, can’t think of any off the top of my head.
I have a friend at work, however, that was told her hair looks cute, ‘even though it’s kind of messy and frizzy.’ Did they really have to add that last part? lol
Glad to hear that you’re feeling better. Vitamins really do work small miracles!
The one I’ve gotten more than anything is that I’m “weird.” The person might be talking about my sense of humor, the music I listen to, the way I dress, or the things I talk about, but I take that as a big compliment. What they mean is I’m UNIQUE. There is nothing wrong with that!
That sort of reminds me of a Post Secret I read last week, http://sugar-devil.com/images/free.1.jpg. Just as you grow older your able to see the compliments in the negativity people say.
I only take my multi vitamins when I know I have been eating crappy, or will be eating crappy soon. It really helps with my mood and energy level!
I always tell my boyfriend I love him, when ever he goes out or I go out, it is the last words we say to each other, and the last thing we say to each other at night. Life is so sort….
I can’t think of any backhanded comments that have been directed my way… maybe that I’m too careful? Not sure.
You are such a sweet chick, Jenn. I still can’t get over how much you’ve grown and changed since I began reading your journal (before you got married and had the kids!) The last paragraph of this post really got to me and made me think. Here’s to counting our blessings, yes?
I’m glad you’re feeling revitalized with the help of sleep and vitamins.. I do have one suggestion that might help you even more. Get some barley grass powder and mix a teaspoon with your morning OJ. It will change your life. Email me and I’ll explain…
xo, A
I get comments like that all time. Honestly, I just roll with everything because I truly only care about what I think about myself, what my husband thinks & my relationship with God. Straight up, period, the end. I actually think it’s amusing when someone tries to insult me like that. It just shows lack of self-confidence on their part. ;)
People tell me stuff like “She’s such a perfectionist. Everything has to be planned. She needs to be sure of her decisions”. Well, YEAH! Or stuff like “She’s a fashionista. She always tries to look better than the rest. She always tries to look nice”. Great you notice I succeed at it ;). Or “she always has an answer for everything”, “she knows a lot of useles trivia” Better than being dumb or ignorant, right? or “she’s very competitive”. At least I compete and I’m not a loser without trying to do anything at all or “she buys stuff all the time”. Better than just window shopp all the time ’cause you don’t work!
All these little comments are always driven by jealousy. Since they don’t have anything really bad to say about you, they complain about the stuff in you that makes them feel less. Really pathetic. I’ve been dealing with comments like those a lot lately. Funny how you posted about it.
Aww, beautiful. I love the family pic!!!
There is a difference between being confident or outspoken and being an insufferable know-it-all bitch, like you usually are.
And your CSS is NOT valid.
Thank you for proving my point. ;) And thanks for the heads up on the CSS. I wasn\’t quite finished tweaking things, but I overlooked checking on the CSS – I\’ve now added that to my to-do list. Ta ta! -Jenn
What a perfect family photo! Ya’ll look so happy!