Comments on: Boundaries. Learn 'em, teach 'em http://www.jenn.nu/2008/12/04/boundaries-learn-em-teach-em/ The blog of a married and babied chick. Fri, 10 Sep 2010 17:04:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Amy http://www.jenn.nu/2008/12/04/boundaries-learn-em-teach-em/comment-page-1/#comment-73275 Amy Sat, 06 Dec 2008 11:33:47 +0000 http://www.jenn.nu/?p=4421#comment-73275 I'm curious, though. Being a mother of 2 boys that were toddlers at the same time.. I know you can't keep an eye on them all the time. Especially if there's more than one. And my neighbor's kid who is 20 mos comes over and is constantly moving and grabbing stuff... How do you give your children constant supervision when you're blogging? When you're doing the dishes? Etc..? I agree that not putting up a Christmas tree and destroying a tradition for, not just you, but your children, is a big mistake. But you can't be on your children 100% of the time. Can you? <abbr><em><em>Amy´s last blog entry: <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/theblogworldnet/~3/471924271/" rel="nofollow">Fontalicious is Back</a></em></abbr></em> I’m curious, though. Being a mother of 2 boys that were toddlers at the same time.. I know you can’t keep an eye on them all the time. Especially if there’s more than one. And my neighbor’s kid who is 20 mos comes over and is constantly moving and grabbing stuff…

How do you give your children constant supervision when you’re blogging? When you’re doing the dishes? Etc..?

I agree that not putting up a Christmas tree and destroying a tradition for, not just you, but your children, is a big mistake. But you can’t be on your children 100% of the time. Can you?

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]]> By: Meli http://www.jenn.nu/2008/12/04/boundaries-learn-em-teach-em/comment-page-1/#comment-73270 Meli Sat, 06 Dec 2008 03:57:16 +0000 http://www.jenn.nu/?p=4421#comment-73270 I agree with you to an extent. I think that the discipline comes with age. I have an 18 month old and my tree is up but the bottom half is naked. My son likes shiny things and to put up sparkly decorations was just too tempting for him. So far it seems that putting them up high has solved the problem. I am just waiting for the day when he discovers that he can climb the tree. :) <abbr><em><em>Meli´s last blog entry: <a href="http://melidworld.com/?p=468" rel="nofollow">Bah Humbug!!</a></em></abbr></em> I agree with you to an extent. I think that the discipline comes with age.

I have an 18 month old and my tree is up but the bottom half is naked. My son likes shiny things and to put up sparkly decorations was just too tempting for him. So far it seems that putting them up high has solved the problem. I am just waiting for the day when he discovers that he can climb the tree. :)
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]]> By: Kate http://www.jenn.nu/2008/12/04/boundaries-learn-em-teach-em/comment-page-1/#comment-73269 Kate Fri, 05 Dec 2008 20:47:33 +0000 http://www.jenn.nu/?p=4421#comment-73269 We debated back and forth about the Christmas tree issue this year. We don't have kids but we DO have a 9 month old puppy right in the middle of the worst part of his chewing phase, and he's a beagle with a nose for getting into things (literally). Joe didn't want a Christmas tree because Jack would either a.) chew on it, b.) hit it with his tail, c.) play with it, d.) break old ornaments, etc etc. But you know, it took a few stern "NO"s, and "BOTTLE"s (we use a water bottle to discipline him some times... spray him in the face once when he's doing something bad) and it works WONDERS. He's not even interested in the tree anymore. Now that there is nothing fun in his reach, its pretty boring to him, haha. Doesn't even acknowledge that its there anymore. <abbr><em><em>Kate´s last blog entry: <a href="http://justkate.net/?p=164" rel="nofollow">ttyl SJU</a></em></abbr></em> We debated back and forth about the Christmas tree issue this year. We don’t have kids but we DO have a 9 month old puppy right in the middle of the worst part of his chewing phase, and he’s a beagle with a nose for getting into things (literally).

Joe didn’t want a Christmas tree because Jack would either a.) chew on it, b.) hit it with his tail, c.) play with it, d.) break old ornaments, etc etc. But you know, it took a few stern “NO”s, and “BOTTLE”s (we use a water bottle to discipline him some times… spray him in the face once when he’s doing something bad) and it works WONDERS.

He’s not even interested in the tree anymore. Now that there is nothing fun in his reach, its pretty boring to him, haha. Doesn’t even acknowledge that its there anymore.

Kate´s last blog entry: ttyl SJU

]]> By: Sarah http://www.jenn.nu/2008/12/04/boundaries-learn-em-teach-em/comment-page-1/#comment-73268 Sarah Fri, 05 Dec 2008 20:32:17 +0000 http://www.jenn.nu/?p=4421#comment-73268 AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!! You have no idea how much I agree! I still don't understand why people don't put up christmas trees because of kids. Every year on christmas my mother has always done this beautiful tree with a very beautiful little town next to the tree and never in my life has she stopped doing it because either of us (my brothers and I). And it wasn't because we instinctly knew NOT to touch anything, but because my mother taught us not to. AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!
You have no idea how much I agree!
I still don’t understand why people don’t put up christmas trees because of kids. Every year on christmas my mother has always done this beautiful tree with a very beautiful little town next to the tree and never in my life has she stopped doing it because either of us (my brothers and I). And it wasn’t because we instinctly knew NOT to touch anything, but because my mother taught us not to.

]]> By: Jonna http://www.jenn.nu/2008/12/04/boundaries-learn-em-teach-em/comment-page-1/#comment-73267 Jonna Fri, 05 Dec 2008 15:24:13 +0000 http://www.jenn.nu/?p=4421#comment-73267 ^ same goes for pets, by the way. ^ same goes for pets, by the way.

]]> By: Jonna http://www.jenn.nu/2008/12/04/boundaries-learn-em-teach-em/comment-page-1/#comment-73266 Jonna Fri, 05 Dec 2008 15:17:09 +0000 http://www.jenn.nu/?p=4421#comment-73266 Kids won't learn a thing unless they learn what "NO" means. If they're never told what to do/what <i>not</i> to do, nor given a chance to learn these things by simply not giving them a chance to, they will be confused when some other authority figure tells them not to do something - voila! Problem child. Seriously, why do mothers think their kids have to be raised in cotton wool until they're adults? Then tossed into the world to develop whatever mental illness they happen to cross paths with because their brain can't handle the new responsibilities and restrictions. Plus "parental supervision", from personal observations, doesn't seem to be in most parents' vocabulary... and that's SAD. Kids won’t learn a thing unless they learn what “NO” means. If they’re never told what to do/what not to do, nor given a chance to learn these things by simply not giving them a chance to, they will be confused when some other authority figure tells them not to do something – voila! Problem child.

Seriously, why do mothers think their kids have to be raised in cotton wool until they’re adults? Then tossed into the world to develop whatever mental illness they happen to cross paths with because their brain can’t handle the new responsibilities and restrictions.

Plus “parental supervision”, from personal observations, doesn’t seem to be in most parents’ vocabulary… and that’s SAD.

]]> By: Bobbi http://www.jenn.nu/2008/12/04/boundaries-learn-em-teach-em/comment-page-1/#comment-73265 Bobbi Fri, 05 Dec 2008 14:40:45 +0000 http://www.jenn.nu/?p=4421#comment-73265 Although I don't currently have children (and so can't form an opinion based on experience), I do agree with you. If you don't teach children at a young age that there are just certain things they cannot touch or play with, you'll spend the rest of your life scolding them and trying to teach them when they are faced with those boundaries later in life (get what I'm saying?). As far as animals, though, I think it really depends. Now that we have 2 dogs over 50 lbs that love to rough house and run from one end of the house to the other, it doesn't make sense to have a tree and ornaments that would inevitably get knocked over and ruined at least on a daily basis. The dogs frequently shift our mattress off the box spring when they're playing; that I can deal with, no problem. Afterall, we're the ones that decided to have these big dogs! But a big tree for just Tom and I with dogs that would knock it down? We'll wait for kids with that! For now, I'm content with our little four foot tree that sits on our side table :) <abbr><em><em>Bobbi´s last blog entry: <a href="http://www.lifeofbobbi.com/archives/864" rel="nofollow">Shrinking Jeans: Week 1</a></em></abbr></em> Although I don’t currently have children (and so can’t form an opinion based on experience), I do agree with you. If you don’t teach children at a young age that there are just certain things they cannot touch or play with, you’ll spend the rest of your life scolding them and trying to teach them when they are faced with those boundaries later in life (get what I’m saying?).

As far as animals, though, I think it really depends. Now that we have 2 dogs over 50 lbs that love to rough house and run from one end of the house to the other, it doesn’t make sense to have a tree and ornaments that would inevitably get knocked over and ruined at least on a daily basis. The dogs frequently shift our mattress off the box spring when they’re playing; that I can deal with, no problem. Afterall, we’re the ones that decided to have these big dogs! But a big tree for just Tom and I with dogs that would knock it down? We’ll wait for kids with that! For now, I’m content with our little four foot tree that sits on our side table :)
Bobbi´s last blog entry: Shrinking Jeans: Week 1

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