Tomorrow my mother and I will be spending three hours with my brothers to celebrate Christmas. CPS decided that hey, wouldn’t it be nice for my brothers to see each other (they haven’t seen one another since my oldest younger brother was transferred on September 22nd), and wouldn’t it be nice for the four of us to have a chance to celebrate Christmas together? So, they’re transporting my youngest brother to where my other brother is at, and from 11-2 the four of us will celebrate Christmas, and my youngest brother’s birthday. He turned eleven on December 29th.
We’re leaving early in the morning. Yes, to me 9:00am is early. The drive is about an hour and twenty minutes, and we might need to make a stop or two on the way. I’ve got Christmas and birthday presents wrapped and packed, two stockings loaded up with candy, two canisters filled with homemade M&M cookies, and a pan of homemade brownies (made from this recipe) cooling on the stove as I type this.
Right now, I am really disgusted with CPS. It’s pretty pathetic when the supervisor of the little minion who stirred up so much trouble with my mother lies while testifying before the judge. I wish I could be around when karma pays that bitch a visit.
But, enough about that. I know that somehow, some way, things will work out. They have to, right? We can’t be kept in this personal hell indefinitely…
Dan and I had a great time out last night. We had dinner with Dan’s brothers and their girlfriends at Texas Roadhouse, and saw The Curious Case of Benjamin Button afterwards. It was a very long, very good movie, but the ending was very sad.
New Year’s Eve should be fun… I think. My mother has invited herself over for the night, and I’m not too happy about that, and trying to decide if it’s worth the upset and grief to uninvite her, which is what I’d really like to do. It’s going to be Daniel, me, Danielle and Matt, and Jason, and I’d like to keep it that way…
I would definitely vote for uninviting her. I’m not sure how to dynamic is between your mom and your friends, but I would imagine that it would just be awkward to have her there.
Good luck on the drive tomorrow. I hope everything goes well!
*sigh* and of course that should be “how THE dynamic”. L2Type, Leesha :hmm:
About your brothers – I have been having to deal with CPS for the past year regarding my 3 children. Your not alone. One tip I can give you is to record everything and document. I went through a heavy bout of postpartum depression and my children was taken because CPS felt that I may not be emotional able to care for them. There was never any threats made or anything. I was dealing fine with my kids – just not with myself. I let myself go and preferred to lay in bed with my children instead of getting up and getting dressed. When CPS came in and took my kids, I lost it and tried to kill myself. I have been battling them for almost a year and we are finally at the point to where CPS is convinced it was just postpartum depression and nothing else. I’ve had to prove myself time and time again – and so will your mom. But don’t give in and fight. Please tell your mom to watch what she says and does around CPS. A good key is to have her call daily (if she doesn’t already) and bug the hell outta them about her sons. Call daily and ask for progress reports. Show them that you are very concerned about them. Have your mom ask CPS what she can do to assist in the care of her sons. That will be so important at the end because they will review her case and see if she made an effort to care for them. I’ve been through this situation before and still am going through it — I have spent hours researching what can go on when your children are removed. Keep in mind also that your mother is now on a time limit. She has exactly 15 months from the date they was taken to regain her children or CPS is REQUIRED to file to terminate her parental rights. Even if the kids return to her and then is taken again, she is still on that 15 month time clock. The law states that a child that is in CPS custody for 15 out of 22 months must have a petition filed in court to terminate the parental rights of the parents.
So please, tell your mother to not wait around on her lawyer to handle her case. She needs to step up and do a few things on her own like calling constantly and offering financial support to her kids (if she hasn’t already). Also, I’m sure your family did an ISP (individualized service plan), so ask them constantly about having a new review done.
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Gotta love Mothers and their willingness to get in the way. :hmm: Hope you all have a fabulous New Year.
Umm Hello??? First of all does your mother not read this blog? She needs to. Secondly, after the chaos she caused with your husband on Christmas does she really need to ruin his NYE as well? She may not do anything intentionally tonight, but she’ll cause tension for sure.
Secondly, there are so many holes in this CPS story that I can’t even figure it out. You know there are laws, oh wait that is where we cue the shitty lawyer your mom hired right? Been there, done that, never going there again. I guess even if you get past all the lawyers and crappy workers I’m still trying to figure out why if the main goal is always reunification that there hasn’t been some plan set fourth for that to happen yet? Some supervisor somewhere has to catch onto this eventually and put a stop to it???
All I can say is good luck.
I’d attempt to uninvite her as well, it sounds like it’s going to be awkward. That’s bogus about the fact that they’ve been apart so long. It’s good you’re all going to get to spend time together but still.. ugh. I really hope something can be done soon.
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Ugh, I hope you do decide to uninvite her, considering all the drama at Christmas. Happy New Year Jenn to you & your family! :biggrin:
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I agree with everyone else about uninviting….
I hope you have an AWESOME new year. M&M cookies are my favorite
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