Comments on: See Jenn run. See Jenn go Zzz…

By: Tehya

Tehya — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 21:53:36 +0000

Bad Mommy for needing a few hours break.. Dreadful behaviour!! Why do you have to justify taking a run for the hills every once in a while? It isn’t like you abandoned them or something?
The thing about your Mom..From reading what you gave said about now and in the past.. I don’t think that she wants them back to be honest. She is a completely irresponsible ‘adult’ (and I use that term very loosely)
From money, to household bills, to her car, meds- pets? How many empty promises had she fed you in the past ? I don’t know but it seems like she is trying to compete with you on every level -she has gotten a taste of freedom without the boys and she is enjoying herself. If she had wanted them back,she would have fought tooth and nail for them. As long as they are being cared for ,are in a proper secure enviroment and still have contact with you and their mother, then maybe it is better than they stay where they are?
I am not blaming her completely-she just might be one of those types who can’t cope with. I know one. My own Mother..

By: Kecia

Kecia — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 16:05:19 +0000

I am glad to hear Ryan is doing better. I also see nothing wrong with you going to the pug meet-up, as it’s a chance for you to get out of the house and have some time to yourself (and lots of cute puppies!). I don’t understand why anyone would consider you a bad mother for wanting to do things on your own every now and then.

As for your mom and brothers, I am glad you are not letting it stress you out. It’s not good to worry about something completely out of your control. Your mom really needs to get on the ball if she truly wants her sons back.

By: Jessy

Jessy — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 15:19:14 +0000

How is Ryan doing today?

By: Damita

Damita — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 09:50:23 +0000

You are not a bad mummy, everyone needs time out once in awhile, glad to hear Ryan is making progess

By: Ranee

Ranee — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 22:23:06 +0000

You are a mom, who deserves a life, don’t even say bad mommy ever again! Anyone who says that to you clearly doesn’t have kids or doesn’t have a firm grip on reality. Or is just plain miserable in their own life! I’d die if I didn’t get away from here every once in a while!

So the state custody thing. I wonder what the law is in your state? Being that workers seem to have it in for your mom and are all around shitty in general I’m guessing they are giving no leniency towards her at all. In our case the state they were in had a 12 month rule where they started to take action and proceed with things against the parent. In all fairness she had almost 3 years to get her child back and never could do anything towards it so it was fair in my mind.

I’d just hate for them to start trying to do anything like terminating rights with your mom. The kids are older, you have a family unit, etc. She may want to get on the ball with something before 18 months in care hits or she may be in trouble.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 14:18:47 +0000

Glad to read that you are finally going to stop stressing out over your mom/brothers situation. All of that stress is no good for you and without it, you will be much happier. I will have to agree with Dex in saying that perhaps foster care may be better for them, even though I am not much of a fan of the fostering system.

Also, those brownies look delicious!

By: Dez

Dez — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 05:27:40 +0000

I hate reading blogs of yours where you have to defend why you’re going to go out and do something. Yes your a Mother, but your Husband or anyone else you choose fit are more than equipped to handle the kids so you can leave for a few hours. *shakes head*

It’s great to hear Ryan’s progress though. As for your Mother and her dragging her heels, it really make her look bad to the courts I’m sure. Someone who wants her kids but won’t fight tooth and nail despite whats going on for them. Least that’s the opinion I’ve gathered reading everything about the situation. I hate to say it but perhaps your brothers would fair better in a foster care environment. Some sort of discipline and stability. I really hope that doesn’t come across as offensive. :/