Daniel is definitely a true gentleman when it comes to sex, and by gentleman I mean he’s fanatical about “ladies first”, if you get my meaning. Only… I have been having some issues in that department lately. Nothing physical, and nothing in terms of not being in the mood. No, my issue is even more frustrating. I’m my normal, happy, please-bang-me self, complete with hormones and interest in sex, but I struggle like hell to have an orgasm. Do you have any idea how frustrating it is? It’s so frustrating that I want sex… and then I don’t. I mean, what’s the point if it’s going to be a hassle? Plus, I’m my own worst enemy, because not only do I struggle to get off, but I hinder myself even more by apologizing for taking so damn long, getting distracted when I think about how much time I’m wasting, etc. And seriously, this IS becoming a huge time-waster. I’m a mom. I’m an employee. I’m a freelancer. I don’t have time to sit around double clicking my mouse waiting for the big boom to happen. Argh.
But I digress. Last night Dan was definitely in the mood, and I definitely was too. But I was not in the mood to deal with my failtacular girly parts (though I guess the blame lies with my hormones, which are ALLLLLLLLLLL out of whack from losing 109 lbs. in the last 11 months; and 64.6 lbs. of that total weight loss has come off in the last four months). So I told him to have at it — though not quite in those words — and not to worry about me. He was so sweet and infuriating with his initial refusal (“I’m not going to unless you do!”), but in the end he thought with his joystick like any guy would and gave in. Hah.
So yeah, that’s my biggest beef right now with this huge weight loss. It’s bugging me more than the bingo flaps. Grrrr.
You know what?Chasing the big O dooesn’t matter, as you said your self you are out of sorts, your body has been through at lot of changes in a very small amount of time. Just relax and don’t worry about it, it will right itself. Just enjoy being with Dan- there is a lot more to love making than just htiting climax ya know girlie!
Enjoy each other and the rest will come (see what I did there??!! HAHA(
don’t worry- you’ll be alright
Ohh gosh I understand your frustration sometimes I have the same problem. I hope it gets better soon for you!
It’s not your fault that it doesn’t happen. You can’t make it happen, and it is very sweet of Daniel to want to give you what you give him in return. It could very well be from the weight loss, so hopefully after time everything will.. work smoothly
I didn’t know weight loss like that makes you lose your mojo! That sucks but atleast you have such a good man at your side!
Atleast you still get in the mood! I don’t know what my deal is, but sex just feels like a huge pain in the butt for me. Sad, I know! My boyfriend hates it, if you can imagine lol.
As a mom, I get you. As a hormonal freak I get you. It’s a short phase, trust me!
I have the same problem because with this weight loss went my mojo too! I rarely get in “the mood” and it sucks!