A few weeks ago I watched the first two episodes of Sister Wives, then DVRed and subsequently watched the rest of them back to back while I was recovering from my gallbladder removal. My initial thought as it is any time the subject of plural marriage is brought up is WTF, but in the end I ultimately feel to each their own. I completely admit to be a little torn over the issue of children, but if there is no abuse going on, and the children are cared for, healthy and happy, again, who am I to judge? On a purely superficial note, I’m too busy managing my own life to really give more than a passing thought to the lives of others. One amusing thought, however, is a woman with multiple husbands. Can you imagine having multiple wedding bands to match the mens wedding bands? LOL.
In any case, I am completely happy in my monogamous relationship. There are days when I’d kill for someone to pitch in with the child chauffeuring and laundry folding and dish washing, but I’m not about to let another woman into my house and into my husband’s pants in order to get help with the chores!
I’ve never watched Sister Wives but I use to watch Big Love and loved it. I don’t see the appeal with multiple husbands/wives but as long as they are all consenting adults then it’s their business. Anywho, on an unrelated note I remember reading in one of your posts about spandex that you wear under your clothes. Do you mind if I ask what brand you use? I am looking for one but I have no idea which ones are good and which are crap.
I know what you mean, I don’t care what other people do with their lives when it comes to how many wives they have, but I couldn’t personally do that. I’d never want to share my Trevor. Those women have to be super strong to be able to share their husband with other women, or I’d think they’d need to be strong. I don’t know, but I’d hate it.
Ouch, sharing my Daniel with other women? No thanks! I don’t know how people do it, but they obviously must find some good in the whole thing. Even though I haven’t seen Sister Wives, I remember watching some other program on it once, and the “original” wife looked like she was trying so hard to be happy in the relationship(s?) but you could see she was desperately miserable. who knows though..
The one woman or one man in these kinds of marriages must be loving it!
I have seen the first episode of Sister Wives and have wanted to see the other episodes, but can’t find the second episode online anywhere and I have this thing where I need to watch episodes of shows, even reality shows, in order, no matter what, so I can’t watch the others until I somehow find episode two. I am also a huge fan of the HBO show Big Love and a friend of mine and I are doing a podcast on the new season when it premieres, which should be a ton of fun. However, onto the real reason for my comment!
I have seen a whole lot of conversation about Sister Wives and about polygamy in general. A lot of people have made the argument that polygamy means one man and multiple wives, when it really doesn’t. Polygamy is essentially the umbrella in which plural marriage stands under. When a woman has more than one husband, that is called polyandry, when a man has multiple wives, that is called polygyny. Group marriage also exists and is when multiple men and multiple women enter into a relationship. Of course the usage of the word marriage means little since plural marriage is not recognized, at least in the U.S. and remains to only be recognized between two people. A discussion that has erupted from every single thing I have read about polygamy is that women in particular cannot get over the idea of “sharing their man” with other women, but in a poly relationship, it is one relationship between all people involved and it is believed by people who are in poly relationships or marriages that they are all in a relationship with each other. Sure, in polygyny marriages today we see men dividing their time between their wives, but it is still believed by the wives that their sister wives are put of their relationship and make their relationship what it is and if one person in the relationship isn’t happy within that relationship, the relationship suffers, therefore all people involved truly want the best for the other people in their relationship. It isn’t a mindset of “Oh no, I’m sharing my husband!” Also, there is a gigantic difference between the religious belief of polygamy and the lifestyle choice of polyamory. I firmly believe that fundmental polygamy, which we see in Big Love, should not happen. There should not be compounds where young girls are being married off to older men; that is abuse and not something anyone should just turn a blind eye to. However, I think that polyamorous people very often get lumped into the same category as fundamentalist polygamists and that is unfair, as polyamorous relationships consist of all consenting adults who truly want those other people in their lives. Also, polyamorous people do not very often have the man dividing his time between the women in the relationship if it is a relationship with one man and multiple women. It is more of a relationship of togetherness between people who truly want to be in a relationship with those multiple other people and not just because they believe their god wants them to enter into that kind of lifestyle.
Yeah, so there’s my severely long-winded comment about that!