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Everyone has had a fight or a falling out with someone that they later regret. It can be horrible realizing that you were in the wrong, and you don’t know how to fix the upset you’ve caused. Sometimes you might feel like there’s no way to repair the damage, and sometimes you might be reluctant to because you feel like you weren’t the only who was wrong. Perhaps you’re unwilling to say sorry because you’re holding out for the other party to do it first. Or you think that no matter how much you apologize, you won’t be forgiven, and you won’t be able to repair your relationship. But you should always try to seek forgiveness if you can. It might be difficult, but there are ways to ask for forgiveness, and perhaps receive it.
Knowing What You Did Wrong
Before you can be forgiven, you need to know what it was you did and be willing to admit that it’s hurt someone you love, even if you didn’t mean to. A lot of people struggle with this kind of self-reflection because it hurts their pride to say they made a mistake. Sometimes it’s also hard to own up to hurting someone because it makes you feel like a bad person, even if you didn’t intend to hurt them. But facing the issue is the first step to asking for forgiveness. It’s important that you understand what you did. You might think that you upset someone in a certain way, but it was something else you did that offended them. You should think about how you might have hurt them and think about it from their perspective.
Reaching Out to Say Sorry
The next step to seeking forgiveness is apologizing for your behavior. It’s essential to recognize that your apology won’t magically fix everything all at once. But opening the lines of communication to make your regret known is a start. You should be careful not to be too forceful about trying to get them to accept your apology. Some of the best get your ex back programs advocate being gentle and contacting someone you have fought with on their terms. Make it clear that you are sincere and that you are genuinely sorry for what you have done. But let them know that you don’t expect their forgiveness, even if you would like it.
Give it Time
You can’t rush forgiveness. Think about how you have felt in the past when someone has hurt you. Even after an apology, it can take weeks, months or even years before you’re willing to let it go. You might have said sorry, but it doesn’t mean that the person you hurt has stopped feeling sad when they think of what you did. You need to give them time until they’re ready to forgive you, and try not to be too pushy. Let them indicate whether you can do or say things to show the sincerity of your apology.
It isn’t fun when you fall out with someone, but it’s nearly always possible to repair your relationship. Have patience and be humble, and you might find them much more willing to forgive.